Many of the homeschooling parents have found that with time, their homeschooling teenagers do not follow the values inculcated in them during their homeschooling days. They dont even respect their parents values once they enter teenage. Teenage rebellion has become commonplace, and our culture has responded by expecting less and less of teenagers. It is also seen that many teenagers go against their parents wishes to fulfill their own dreams and even get involved with drugs, alcohol, and immorality. They no longer believe in God and hence start living a life of their own judgments.
Many parents believe that they can prevent their children from such rebellion because they feel confident of their parenting approach. There are some critical contributing factors that have led to the destruction of mind of teenage children because of their family-minded parents. Some of these are as below:
Parents have self-centered dreams where their concern for themselves ends up overshadowing love for their children. One of the reasons parents homeschool is because they want to accomplish something good in their children. Success in homeschooling requires that academic, moral, and spiritual goals be set.
Making family as the idol results in turning it as a measurement of success. Being an idol requires sacrifice, but normally parents end up sacrificing relationship with their children for the idol of the family.
Parents tend to follow what other families are teaching their children and try to impose those notes on their children. They are disappointed when they compare their kids with the outside forms and merely find any expression of learning in their children.
Many parents have designed their personal standards and believe that it should be followed by everyone else in the family. Many families are marked by pride and judgment and its consequences leave a negative impact on the children as they too are made to judge things out of pride thereby filtering their perceptions to view things.
Parents tend to become authoritative and start molding their kids in the direction where they can become more disciplined, sheltered and behavior oriented. In doing so, parents give their child to maintain high standards for their outside so that their inside is shaped as anticipated. This result in dominating style of parenting that damages the relationship and hinders the ability to truly influence their values.
Over control is also associated with over reliance upon sheltering. Over sheltering your child might be harmful as your children may feel abandoned and lonely since they are protected from children with like-minded families, from secular beliefs and so on. Protecting from temptations and corrupting influences is part of raising children. Every parent shelters to one degree or another. But this line should be drawn according to what actually is required for the child and not what a parent seek for the betterment of their child.